rockmfhudd
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I wouldn't tell her anything because it can and will be held against you at some point. just see how it goes man
Dealing with a Negative and Unsupportive GF, Fiancee or Wife
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ditto.....
You can't do that to someone you love!!!
To The_Gat5 you both need to stay calm and reflect to things first. Stop pushing someone that quickly. You need more patience, that's how relationship works. Understand her more!
Girl's mind changes quickly. That's what happen to us, she's the one pursuing me even to the point where we stop communicating, and to think you have a kid. Let the time pass when you think there's no hope, because in the end there is.
Girls were really crazy. But you can't leave her just because of a workout?
Girls were really crazy. But you can't leave her just because of a workout?
It's her negativity that's the issue, not my workout. I don't understand why she can't support my desire to lift and be fit.
Any time she wants to do something, change careers, get a different car, go out with her friends, I say, "do what makes you happy."
I'm not going to leave her, but I'm sick of her expecting me to drop all of my sh*t because she wants me to do something. I'm not going to skip my gym time just because she wants me to put together a piece of furniture she bought. I'll do that when I have the time. I think it's pretty sh*tty that she thinks it's okay to be a bitch if I tell her that.
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You'll just have to come to an understanding man. If you know how to balance your lifestyle correctly with your life, there shouldn't ever be an issue. And you need to educate her about aas, but she will have to be willing to listen or it won't work.
My wife doesn't work out or lift or anything and it took a while to get her where she's at with things, but she is very supportive of me now and helps prep my food, etc
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My wife doesn't work out or lift or anything and it took a while to get her where she's at with things, but she is very supportive of me now and helps prep my food, etc
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Where do you get this estrogen filled, lovey dovey, horse shit from? Oxygen Network, Dr. Phil, OWN???? Dude you sound like this is one of those teen vampire love movies. If shit ain't perfect, then it weighs in on her, which weighs in on him and they both have tension on hand. Bet his cortisol levels are elevated just dealing with this shit. I know there's a kid involved, but once a woman starts down the road to misery there is no turning back, especially if the underlying issue has something to do with finances. A man can never be truly content with himself until his finances are in order. (Unless you're a lazy POS) A woman... they're just miserable people in general and the only way to soothe them is 1. Money, 2. Sex, 3. Lying about how beautiful they are even after they've let themselves go. If she wants him to sit on his ass and eat candy, aka hold him back from what he enjoys, she has the issue not him. You can either castrate yourself with dumb ideas of buying her shit to let you workout, or just yank your balls off and quit training entirely. Everyone has a role to fill in a committed relationship and hers is to support her man as long as he's handling the things he should. If he is... screw her, if he isn't then guess what... brought it on himself. Dude is miserable he practically said he's just hanging in there for the kid, but you and your flowers and clouds are just gonna extend his misery another 6 months to a year.
Nothing like having her throw the cost of that in your face lol.... yeah tell her and regret it for the rest of time lol...
MaxxPursuit
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If you show her unconditional love and support and she can't return it especially with something that youre passionate about then something is wrong. You need to really sit her down and talk about this. If she can't see eye to eye with you then she is selfish and you need to reevaluate the relationship before locking it down. I understand the issue with having a kid. That's obviously a huge factor in your decision but at the end of the day, you need to be happy. You do not want to live in a miserable relationship. Luckily, mine loves the lifestyle, training, meal prep, everything. She even pins me lol. But trust me dude... if I couldnt even hit the gym up or eat what I need to eat without hearing her bitch at me, there would be problems. Plenty of guys have a gf or wife that disagree with the lifestyle but they still support them because thats what you do in a relationship... make eachother happy. If she can support your passion, thats awesome, she doesnt need to be involved but as long as she supports your goals, thats a true partner. If she can't get behind you and youre with her out of "fear" for your kid, thats a shitty relationship. Spend some time thinking to yourself. Spend time discussing with her. Then make a decision. Hope it works out for you bud.
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Sounds like she could be a little insecure with you going and working out around younger girls that are there to flirt. Not saying you're doing any of that. But after her having a kid, maybe she doesn't think her body is anywhere it was pre-baby. If I were you and you have the room you might start setting up a home gym. Definitely expensive but you can start getting piece by piece and outfitting your home space. That way you're doing your thing at home and she knows what you're doing. Just a thought.
Everyone here has given good insight so I will try to add to it. Looking at the bigger picture, she dislikes you working out now, but what will it be next? Let's say you quit working out today and pick up a new hobby, will she find a reason to dislike that as well? What I'm getting at is, is it the actual "working out" she dislikes or is it "you doing and enjoying something" that she isn't into that she dislikes? I can understand her not being excited about the juice, but being somewhat passive aggressive over you working out throws up red flags to me. It will only get worse with time. I believe honesty is the best policy, always, but if you start juicing, tell her and then decide to split BELEIVE ME that shit will come back to bite you in custody court. You are in a tough situation. Marriage is supposed to be forever. Could you imagine putting up with this shit for the next 30-40 plus years? Obviously not. I would sit down with her and have a reasonable adult conversation. Ask her what it is she wants out of the relationship and what her expectations are from you? Point blank.
rockmfhudd
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well chances are even if the juice did come up you can clear it and test but no judge is going to test you for that, unless she has pics of the shit or of you shooting it I highly doubt it would matter, what I will say is if she is that shitty in court her true colors will come out and she will look like the insecure twit that she is sounding to be. I wouldn't tell her shit until you solidify this relationship, or break up but I damn sure wouldn't tell her jack shit other than I take supplements leave it at that. I hate it for you bro and I hope it works out but if it is this rocky before marriage id bet a paycheck it wont work out. and I am saying this as a father to a 25 year old and a 22 year old that's about to have a baby, I am asking him to #1 get a DNA test, number 2 get a new stable job, and don't get married if he doesn't feel like it you don't have to be married just to get a divorce to be a father
Thanks for the advice guys.
Sitting down and just talking about what we want seems like a solid plan. I doubt she'll be 100% honest with herself about some of it.
If it works and I get her to come around then maybe I'll try to get her on board with this stuff.
I'm an engineer so I make pretty good money and my work hours are very reasonable. I pay for the majority of our stuff. She's a retail manager so her hours are pretty crazy, but I can work around that.
Sitting down and just talking about what we want seems like a solid plan. I doubt she'll be 100% honest with herself about some of it.
If it works and I get her to come around then maybe I'll try to get her on board with this stuff.
I'm an engineer so I make pretty good money and my work hours are very reasonable. I pay for the majority of our stuff. She's a retail manager so her hours are pretty crazy, but I can work around that.
Bro, it sounds like she doesn't have the self confidence to love herself, how can she love anyone, or let anyone love her. Not gonna happen. Oh, and she did not FORGET to take the pill a couple of days. That was a trap, and you don't do that crap to someone you love and RESPECT. Women need to know you can alway find someone younger and hotter anytime. I think you already know what to do. Bro, I hope it all works out for the best. I really think you need a trip to Bangkok.
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I agree with all this. Juicing with me is noticeable but no judge is ever going to order a test for it. It's way too expensive. You should really just lay it all out on the line and if she doesn't like it she can deal with it. A fit lifestyle is the best thing for you and juicing isnt what the world thinks it is, especially if done properly. If she wants to give you shit about working out there must be another underlaying issue. No sane person cares about her significant other being in TOO good of shape. That's just insane to me and kind of mind blowing. When my girlfriend and I started talking she was like "I smoke a lot of weed, is that ok?". My reply was "I'm heating a syringe full of testosterone as we speak, is that ok?". I was worried for a second seeing how my previous gd was against juicing. It was the best decision of pure honesty I ever made. We're about to buy our first house.
You can do this.
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I have been into fitness quite some time, and had some off time where I gained a bit of weight, my other half bigbusiness the same thing with him. I chose to get back into it before he did, I was eating healthy on my own and working out on my own, a year later bigbusiness decided to get back on the role. After he got himself into shape he chose to bring in gear. Although I was into fitness I did not agree to the gear use. He hid it from me, was working out all the time and I felt as if there was no time for me and him.
I found out about the gear use pretty much immediately, and wasn't on board. We had hell of fights, misunderstandings, and accusations. Needless to say we took some time apart. After we re-assessed our own goals, worked on our own insecurities that was making us unhappy, and communicated about the gear use (him showing me all of his research, this community etc) we got back together.
Sometimes self evaluating helps along with taking a step back and see if you two really want each other. I have been here since October and obviously have decided to use gear as well.
It takes time, commitment, communication, trust, love, and ultimately an open mind for it to work. If you communicate to her, include her and show her that this lifestyle is not a bad thing and remind her that you are doing this for you and not other females she may be more understanding.
I found out about the gear use pretty much immediately, and wasn't on board. We had hell of fights, misunderstandings, and accusations. Needless to say we took some time apart. After we re-assessed our own goals, worked on our own insecurities that was making us unhappy, and communicated about the gear use (him showing me all of his research, this community etc) we got back together.
Sometimes self evaluating helps along with taking a step back and see if you two really want each other. I have been here since October and obviously have decided to use gear as well.
It takes time, commitment, communication, trust, love, and ultimately an open mind for it to work. If you communicate to her, include her and show her that this lifestyle is not a bad thing and remind her that you are doing this for you and not other females she may be more understanding.
That is probably part of the issue as well, with the kid, there's not much time for us to spend time together.
Additionally she chose a job where she's working a minimum of 50hrs a week where I'm almost always working 40 unless a project is behind.
It's rough, but she knew that going into the job, I recommended she try to find a typical 9-5 but she said she wanted to manage a retail store b/c shes good at it.
I said, "do what makes you happy."
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