So my wife and I talked about her sister and how her cancer is supposedly back. She (Her sister) ignored the doctors recommended treatment of tamoxifen and I had to explain to my wife exactly what it does. My sister in law opted to take herbs and some other shit she had been told about on the internet. I hope her cancer isn't back because I imagine that would definitely suck if it was. Earlier this year my friend lost his wife at the age of 48 and it wasn't a good experience, but she handled it like a boss right down to her final moments. I commend her bravery.
This is about to sound selfish as hell. We live in a big ass house with plenty of bedrooms and in all honesty if her sister is in fact fallen ill I can see this headed down a road where my wife wants her sister to move in if she can't manage herself and that brings in a host of other variables like her incapable grown adult children, two grand babies as well as her need for care. I'm no care taker, I wouldn't agree to be waiting on her sister and all that. That might sound fucked up, but I have an obligation to my wife only, not her family members. I already do more than most husbands would IMO and for me this is a lose/lose. Trust me, many of you know my misery in dealing with my in-laws. I almost hate that her family is as fucked up as they are, add their financial issues and that leaves an assumption that we're obligated to assume responsibility for their woes. I've been poor and although it's a hard obstacle to overcome it can be done and has been done, but for many poverty is a state of mind that snares the ignorant into a mentality of fuck it, help me despite myself and lack of effort.
So my dilemma is this, if the wife were to ever ask if her sister could move in with us, how can I politely say "fuck no, you're asking a helluva lot of me mentally, fiscally and in time"? My wife is very family oriented, I am not with exception to my mother, wife and kids. Anyone else can catch a bus to Gofuckoff, USA. Am I being insensitive? How can I go about avoiding this ever coming up? I don't like my in-laws, I may not want them to keel over and die immediately (especially in my house), but I sure as hell don't wanna be living with any of them for any period of time especially in my house. Especially if they don't pay me the money they owe me and are supposed to pay me tomorrow... to not pay me and then end up in my house sick, or not would be an insult and yes I know it's trivial, but my mind has always been revenge and retaliation oriented.
This is about to sound selfish as hell. We live in a big ass house with plenty of bedrooms and in all honesty if her sister is in fact fallen ill I can see this headed down a road where my wife wants her sister to move in if she can't manage herself and that brings in a host of other variables like her incapable grown adult children, two grand babies as well as her need for care. I'm no care taker, I wouldn't agree to be waiting on her sister and all that. That might sound fucked up, but I have an obligation to my wife only, not her family members. I already do more than most husbands would IMO and for me this is a lose/lose. Trust me, many of you know my misery in dealing with my in-laws. I almost hate that her family is as fucked up as they are, add their financial issues and that leaves an assumption that we're obligated to assume responsibility for their woes. I've been poor and although it's a hard obstacle to overcome it can be done and has been done, but for many poverty is a state of mind that snares the ignorant into a mentality of fuck it, help me despite myself and lack of effort.
So my dilemma is this, if the wife were to ever ask if her sister could move in with us, how can I politely say "fuck no, you're asking a helluva lot of me mentally, fiscally and in time"? My wife is very family oriented, I am not with exception to my mother, wife and kids. Anyone else can catch a bus to Gofuckoff, USA. Am I being insensitive? How can I go about avoiding this ever coming up? I don't like my in-laws, I may not want them to keel over and die immediately (especially in my house), but I sure as hell don't wanna be living with any of them for any period of time especially in my house. Especially if they don't pay me the money they owe me and are supposed to pay me tomorrow... to not pay me and then end up in my house sick, or not would be an insult and yes I know it's trivial, but my mind has always been revenge and retaliation oriented.
