So those of you familiar with me know my son is off to college playing football and his gf is at school with him. Today is their anniversary to be exact and they've been together basically since the 8th grade, officially the past two years when my wife and I asked her mom to allow her to have a boyfriend officially. Point is they're good together, in love and making moves together. It takes a lot to go off to college out of state with someone to support them emotionally. I commend them both, my son for being mature enough to want to take on the responsibility of caring for another person and be with one person, her for the same and to leave her comfort zone and follow my son all for the sake of love. Being on campus with a hot girlfriend can be challenging, as well as dating the guy that looks like he might become the best thing in years up there for football. They'll be alright I think.
Now here's my dilemma. My wife doesn't care for my sons gf calling, or texting me whenever she likes. I have no problem with it as 1. I see her as my daughter in law, 2. She's gonna have a lot of questions initially about school since she's there courtesy my doing. I handled the entire registration, paid for all her entrance exams, handled all the financials, everything. She even called to ask me about the meal plans I had them on if I thought they needed to change it, or keep it. Basically if it weren't for me, she'd probably be at the local community college and living at home still. She's a sweet girl and so far she's weathered the storm. For all practical purposes as far as I'm concerned she's my daughter in law and is under 44's protective bubble. My wife says all women are fickle and with her being young there might be confusion, but what my wife doesn't quite accept is that to them, we're dinosaurs. There's no way that she looks at me as anything other than my son's dad and someone she knows has her back. I've even told her "As long as you're together, you're one of us" and I emphasized the together part. I think my wife might be feeling either insecure, or like I do so much for her, but won't lift a finger for her side of the family possibly. I'm not sure, but she asked if two of the nephews still in school could come visit during the summer and I said fine, but I wasn't going to be missing out on, or taking them to the gym with me if they came. The boys didn't really wanna come anyways because they're scared of me. I'm basically the only authority figure they know with a pair of balls and they know I don't fuck around with dumb shit they pull.
So I'm of the opinion that the wife can't quite see why I do so much for my son's girl versus her family. I do what I gotta do to ensure my son's success. His girl is smart, hard working when it comes to school and keeps my son on task. I even had the academics counselor put them in the exact same classes together so I know there's no excuse for him not to excel. I think the responsibility of him looking out for her will make him a stronger man and them a better team for later in life. Her calling me to chat about school, or how their day went is irrelevant IMO, if we had to wait on our son to keep us informed we'd miss out on a lot of stuff, thanks to her we know most everything and besides she calls the wife too, just me more. I see no harm in it. It's like having a second daughter IMO. As long as she acts right I tell my son to love her like she deserves to be loved, protect her, prioritize spending quality time together outside of football and to not let her down, but I also told him that if she fucks up he better drop her so hard she thinks the world is spinning 10x faster than it is and has a concussion. As for my wife, why let me do all that I've done for her if you're gonna complain about her calling/texting me? Thoughts???
Now here's my dilemma. My wife doesn't care for my sons gf calling, or texting me whenever she likes. I have no problem with it as 1. I see her as my daughter in law, 2. She's gonna have a lot of questions initially about school since she's there courtesy my doing. I handled the entire registration, paid for all her entrance exams, handled all the financials, everything. She even called to ask me about the meal plans I had them on if I thought they needed to change it, or keep it. Basically if it weren't for me, she'd probably be at the local community college and living at home still. She's a sweet girl and so far she's weathered the storm. For all practical purposes as far as I'm concerned she's my daughter in law and is under 44's protective bubble. My wife says all women are fickle and with her being young there might be confusion, but what my wife doesn't quite accept is that to them, we're dinosaurs. There's no way that she looks at me as anything other than my son's dad and someone she knows has her back. I've even told her "As long as you're together, you're one of us" and I emphasized the together part. I think my wife might be feeling either insecure, or like I do so much for her, but won't lift a finger for her side of the family possibly. I'm not sure, but she asked if two of the nephews still in school could come visit during the summer and I said fine, but I wasn't going to be missing out on, or taking them to the gym with me if they came. The boys didn't really wanna come anyways because they're scared of me. I'm basically the only authority figure they know with a pair of balls and they know I don't fuck around with dumb shit they pull.
So I'm of the opinion that the wife can't quite see why I do so much for my son's girl versus her family. I do what I gotta do to ensure my son's success. His girl is smart, hard working when it comes to school and keeps my son on task. I even had the academics counselor put them in the exact same classes together so I know there's no excuse for him not to excel. I think the responsibility of him looking out for her will make him a stronger man and them a better team for later in life. Her calling me to chat about school, or how their day went is irrelevant IMO, if we had to wait on our son to keep us informed we'd miss out on a lot of stuff, thanks to her we know most everything and besides she calls the wife too, just me more. I see no harm in it. It's like having a second daughter IMO. As long as she acts right I tell my son to love her like she deserves to be loved, protect her, prioritize spending quality time together outside of football and to not let her down, but I also told him that if she fucks up he better drop her so hard she thinks the world is spinning 10x faster than it is and has a concussion. As for my wife, why let me do all that I've done for her if you're gonna complain about her calling/texting me? Thoughts???
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